With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, every where we look we are being encouraged to date our husbands.
Now do not get me wrong, I love to spend time with my husband! I love to go to lunch and even enjoy a movie every now and then, but to go out on a date….not so much.
I have to admit we are not very intentional about going out together. We seldom plan to go “do” something unless it is an official event. For instance, we did make a plan and bought tickets to go to our annual church Valentine’s Banquet, but that is about as intentional we get.
I know couples out there are very purposed to have so many “date nights” a month. But there are 3 reasons I do not date my husband…..
Number 1: We do most things together already.
I know what you are thinking, we are so busy. We have to carve out time to be with one another. Although we have lived both extremes, my husband has worked three hours a day and also has worked out of town all week and only been home on his weekends, but we just naturally do things together.
Number 2: We protect our time together at home.
Our kids have always had a reasonable bedtime. Due to the fact, that I am not a night owl by any stretch of the imagination, we have always tried to keep our time together in the evenings after the kids go to bed. Now that everyone is a bit older, they are still sent to their rooms or even up to our room to read or watch a movie. This is my husband and my time to just hang out and do whatever we please. We do not need something to do or place to go to spend quality time with one another.
Number 3: My husband is not a go out and “do” something kind of guy.
I have to admit he has gotten much more social with age, but he does not care to go out just to go out, if you now what I mean. We do go and have lunch or we may go run errands, but they are usually a last minute decision and just because we can. Certainly not a date.
To be honest, I remember dating even though it has been over 20 years, and I do not wish to go back! Although, dating is exciting. It is also expensive and requires planning and quite frankly, my husband and I don’t need to date each other. We are married and I like it that way! 🙂
Blessings to you and Happy Valentine’s Day!