What constitutes a large family in this day and age?
More than 2 kids?
More than 3 kids?
I do not necessarily think of our family unit as large. My dad is one of sixteen (naturally born and no twins), so I feel like I pale in comparison.
But I think others disagree…..
Here is our current familial status: 1 Dad, 1 Mom, 3 girls & 3 boys still living on our home, 1 girl and 1 boy no longer living in our home.
Many people do not understand some of the hurdles that large families face. Now, I know what you might be thinking. You decided to have all those kids. YES, we did and we wouldn’t change it for anything! However, our culture has certainly made the logistics of having a large family more difficult at times.
Here are some hurdles that we have had to face. Most of these are not a one time occurrence, but rather hurdles that we constantly face…
- Longer waits to be seated at a restaurant. When we go out to eat, we expect to have to wait awhile to be seated. Restaurants, normally only have a few areas in which large groups can be seated. We have learned to go out to eat during off times.
- At many events, we have to be split apart in our seating. As a matter fact, when we travel and visit other churches we can not sit in a row together as a family. We have learned to seat ourselves tactically with the older children sitting directly in front of us and the
smallyounger (we do not really have small children as my husband is 6’6″ and I am 6’0″ 🙂 ) children sitting next to mom and dad.
- We have to reserve “two” hotel rooms due to fire code we are told. Once in awhile, we are able to get adjoining rooms, but not all hotels have this priceless commodity. As much as we love staying in hotels for vacations, it does increase our expenses and it is really not that fun to go on family vacation when I am unable to sleep in the same room as my husband!
- Increased camping costs. We absolutely love camping, but we have met some frustrations in the last couple years when we camp in private campgrounds. We have actually been charged for any children that exceed the limit. This can make even camping an expensive adventure. I still have not figured out the logic in this as we are all sleeping in our travel trailer.
- No camping spots available for your “group size”. This is a new one that we are now facing. I was just trying to make reservations today. On every campground I tried to make reservations in Western Washington, after putting in all my information, I was denied with, “Your group is too large for this site”. Really?!!? I wonder which kids they would like me to leave at home. (Apparently, I need an adjoining campsite)
The next few were thought up by some of our family members. We had a great time talking about it and all the adventures we have had because of our large size.
- The “Family size” dilemma~ (this is one that my daughter, Morah, thought of). I am pretty sure that “family size” feeds a family of 4, it certainly does not feed us! Maybe we should “Super-size” that! 😉
- The Family Vehicle~ (courtesy of my hubs). We are maxed out on seating in our Excursion. It means taking friends requires a strategic plan. And forget taking a Taxi ride, it would be 3 of them!
- Family Visitations~ You are probably wondering what this means. Well, let me explain. We have had many friends invite us over for fellowship. We always, always explain what that means. Our family fills a house quite quickly. I won’t even talk about the change in noise level. 🙂
- Family Fun~ Have you ever seen a bicycle carrier that holds 8 bikes? Flying kites gets a bit interesting. Although, we can almost field a baseball team, and bowling is always a blast with two lanes to ourselves!
Having a full family comes with some obstacles, but it also comes with a lot of fun! There is never a dull moment in our life!
Just a note: This post started out as a way of funneling my frustrations after spending the afternoon trying to make online reservations for our camping trip to the Tulip Festival in Western Washington. But it turned out as a fun and comical conversation with lots of laughs and stories! We were able to make online reservations at a state park thanks to a friend who answered my post on Facebook. Hooray for Facebook!
Thanks for listening to my rants :). I would love to hear some of your large family hurdles.